I’m one of them.

The realization

Welp ….it’s happened.

It’s finally happened!

And the crazy part is that I saw it and I didn’t see it coming at the same time.

It’s official! I…. D2dalo25… am an “isheep! ”.

What’s an “isheep” you ask? An “isheep” is a person that buys any and everything #apple puts on the market.

And as much as it hurts to admit I am one of those people. Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying it as if it’s a bad thing because in my opinion, #apple makes some great products. Oh no I’m just saying it because it’s kind of a weird thing…to me because a few years ago you couldn’t give me an #iPhone. That’s right I would have kindly declined your offer and ask that you just give me the money instead. And I don’t blame #apple for this turn of events in my life. No no no no no… I don’t even blame myself. Do you wanna know who I blame? I blame one of their biggest competitors #Samsung. That’s right, you all heard me say it I blame #Samsung. Why do I blame them you ask? Well I’ll tell you in just a moment. But before I do why we go back to where it all started.

Trying something Different

It all started about six months after purchasing my #Nokia Lumia 1520 that I had did plenty of research on beforehand. And yes I’m am aware that purchasing an #Windows based cell was a mistral but at the time it was the only relevant phone with a 6inch screen and so that’s what drove me to it… let’s not discuss that phone any more shall we? I was on my phone and I was wanting to download and use some of the latest apps but that in it self was a problem. Because #Snapchat wasn’t even available on a windows phone, #Instagram was still in beta mode. So I was really stuck with #Facebook and #Twitter 😟. But my wife who decided to go with and Android OS phone so she was able to download and play with all the latest apps. But… like I said I only wanted a phone with a 6inch screen and that’s what I had.

The Beginning of the end

So 2 years later our phone contracts were up and it was time for us to get some new phones. We were pretty excited because in a 2 year span so many new phones had come out. My wife was dead set on getting the #Samsung Note7 and I knew I was gonna go with something #android based but I wasn’t sure which one. So there we were in the store like two little kids playing with all the new phones, which is a must for me because to me if it doesn’t feel good in my hands then I’m not even gonna wanna use it. So the #Note7 had just released that week and it was on back order because it was so popular and we couldn’t get ours that day. But they would be delivered to our house in a week so it wasn’t bad.

At Last

The day finally comes. I see the Fedex truck outside the window and know what he’s putting in our mailbox. After returning back inside the house we rip into our boxes and are in complete awe. I decided to get the silver finish and she went with the blue finish on her phone. They both looked amazing. But don’t all phones look amazing fresh out the box? And after just putting in my info I was in complete heaven. Every thing from the eye scan to unlock feature to the new and improved stylus was just pure enjoyment to use. It’s sooo fast and the screen look sooo beautiful. Besides the bloatware that comes preloaded on it. It was love at first touch.

WTF

Two to three weeks in and we are still in love with our phones. I’m telling all my friends and some of no coworkers about how much I like it and some of them are actually saying that they are going to get one when their upgrade comes around. Then one day I read on the news app that someone is suing #Samsung because it caught fire in their house and the entire house burned down. Then a few days later I see that someone is suing because they charged theirs in their Jeep and it caught fire and basically burned the Jeep up. I couldn’t help but wonder what were they doing to their phones to make them explode. A day or two later I read that there are a lot more people suing #Samsung and that #Samsung is apologizing for releasing faulty phones. And they are telling everyone not to leave them plugged in overnight in their homes. (Side note: that was the first nudge that #Samsung gave me towards #Apple).

My mind won’t let me forget about these headlines that I’ve seen so I was very cautious. Then a few days later #Samsung issued a statement saying that they have discovered that there is an issue with the battery overheating and therefore causing the insides of the phone to catch on fire and they wanted all Note7 owners to return their phone in for a new one with a more optimized battery. As much as we hated to do it we returned the phones and got completely new ones. So about three weeks after that I was still reading headlines about how the Note7 was still having issues. Then…that’s when #Samsung issued a statement saying that all Note7 owners should return their phone. I didn’t read much into that article because I loved my phone. Ours wasn’t over heating and catching on fire. And after discussing it with my wife she was worried that one of them eventually would and it would be a shamed if it messed up the entire house. I agreed. (Side note: that was the second push they gave me in #Apples direction).

Why did I choose this

So we get to ATnT and stand in line because obviously we’re not the only ones who were affected by this. When a sales associate finally gets to us she describes to us that if we 2 other #Samsung phones that they would give us $100 off of our next phone bill, but if we went with a different brand we would only receive $50 off. And after hearing that news I was ready to say screw ATnT and go back to #boostmobile. But I held my emotions at bay. And that’s when I was seriously considering getting the 5.5 inch iPhone 8. Yea it looked like a toy in my hands but it was a relevant phone and i wouldn’t be dealing with #Samsung. But my wife wanted to stay with #android and #Samsung had the best phone for that OS. So we stayed with #Samsung, got the $100 off our next bill, and decided to get the #Samsung galaxy S7 edge.

I’m pretty sad at this point because everything about this phone reminds me of how awesome the Note7 was. Smaller battery, less ram speed, lackluster camera, smaller screen, no retina detection, no stylus and no showing it off to all my friends. After thinking of all that I was missing I was pretty down in the dumps for a while. But I still could get all the latest apps and the time it took to charge up to 100% was pretty quick. But other than that I hated that phone.

I need one of those

A long time before this I bought my wife an #iPad. It got destroyed and seeing how happy she was with it I surprised her with another one. But I bought myself a #kindle. And day after day night after night it my kindles were just getting slower and slower. But my wife’s iPad was as snappy as the day she turned it on. And one Christmas she surprised me with an upgraded kindle. It was fun for about 3 weeks then yet again it just kept getting sluggish. So I decided I needed a better tablet and went and purchased myself a brand spanking new #iPad Pro.

This is pretty awesome

At this point life seemed to get a little better. My ipad almost made me forget that I had a sub par phone. Almost! When ever I was home I would rarely use my phone. I’d just leave it in my room while i carried my iPad around. And the best part was that all the apps that i sued on my phone could be downloaded on my tablet. And I could get all my pictures and documents from the google cloud and use them on my tablet. Yup, life was good. Then there was one time when I was at work sitting down in a chair three feet off the floor when I accidentally knocked my phone to the floor. I had it in a body case but it fell on its face. When i picked it up to see if any damage was done there was a beautiful crack across the screen. I was confused because this was suppose to be made with gorilla glass 3 which was the strongest glass on the market or so I thought. As soon as that happened I told myself that my next phone was gonna be an iPhone! But I still had at least a year until then so I was pretty much playing the waiting game.

I like them again

As a kid and all through high school i loved to draw. And as an adult every now and again I’d get a strong urge to draw something. But i had never drawn digitally before. SO one day after watching the #apple event on you tube they mentioned that they would be releasing the #apple pencil. And my plan was to buy it in about a week or so. Little did I know that my wife had already ordered one for me and planned to surprise me when I got home. So we get home and I open my shiny new #apple pencil and I download an app called #procreate. Man oh man oh man, the pencil was a pure delight to use. It had a bit of heft to it which didn’t bother me at all, and the way it glided across the screen was just awesome. And I really loved the fact that all I had to do was just plug it into the #iPad to sync it up. I don’t know if you guys have ever used a stylus before but most of the time they are a pain in the butt because of that giant squishy rubber tip at the end of them. As an artist you could never be precise with them and that was a huge problem to me. So I pretty much never used one until the #apple pencil. And I have to say I was truly blown away with it. Even with the $100 price tag that was attached to it.

Oh happy Day

The day had finally arrived. It was time to upgrade our cell phones, and I was celebrating like i had hit the winning shot at the end of the game, on the inside. I was leaving the manufacturer and the operating system that was all to familiar to me and jumping on a new ship. I knew the transition wouldn’t be too hard because I used my #iPad on a daily basis and I watched tons of YouTube videos on the iPhone Xs Max. I had very high hopes and expectations. So I knew what I wanted as soon as we entered the store. And I got it. The wife on the other hand still had a little doubt. Until I told her that she was getting an Xs Max also. So her entire tone changed because she was feeling the way I was about the Galaxy S7. We didnt find any cases that we liked in the store so we waited till we got home and found some on #Amazon that protected the entire phone instead of just the sides and back.

Wow

The moment we got home we ripped into them. And man oh man it was sooo shiny and slim, it smelled good, it felt a little wired in the hands and it was an absolute fingerprint magnet, but I knew at that moment I was gonna be a happy customer. And set up was a breeze. It asked for my email and WiFi password and that was it. Mainly because it was communications with my #iPad so all of my favorite apps were being downloaded in an instant. I truly loved the way it communicates with any other #apple accessory with the same email address and only that accessory. This one didn’t have a home button like my iPad so navigation was a little finicky at first but within 5 minutes i was having no problems at all. The retina scanner was another one of my favorite things about it. I could unlock it, purchase and download any apps all just by looking at it. And speaking of the retina scanner, one of my favorite things was to play with the new #animoji feature. (Instead of just regular video messages you can send video of a character that you’ve created to look like you or a number of different emoji that can move its eyes and mouth exactly how you do).In fact for the first few weeks that was how me and my wife sent messages to each other. Then there was the sound quality which i loved, there was the battery life which was a huge bonus for me and all the latest and greatest apps that my heart could handle. And when I was at home there was no need to even use it now because i could send and receive text, send and receive phone and face time calls all on my #iPad because they were communicating with each other. I loved everything about the phone. I actually felt like I was back in the loop when it came to cell phone technology and for me it was a great feeling.

Satisfied

So a few weeks go by and next thing you know Christmas is here. We are still loving our phones and all is right with the world. Now we just got these $1200 phones last month so we weren’t expecting an expensive gift from each other. So I give her her gift which was a board game of her favorite TV show and she hands me mines. Then she hands me three more boxes that were about the same size as the first box. So I opened the first box and I was almost blown away. she got me an #apple watch. I was literally speechless because thats the last thing I was expecting to receive.

And once again setup was a breeze. All I had to do was scan my watch face with my phone and after it downloaded all my favorite apps it was done. The other two boxes she gave me were the charging stand, a black metallic band and a carrying case. I was truly a happy camper on Christmas Day. I can send and receive text messages and voice calls all from my wrist. And there are a few other very cool things I can do with my watch but those are the main two things that I want to be able to do. I love my watch

A happy Sheep

And that ladies and gentlemen is how #Samsung pushed me into the arms of #Apple and how #Apple has been treating me so far. It was at that moment that I had realized that i had become an iSheep …and I was proud to be one.

It’s now February 2019 and I’m still loving all of my #apple products. They get updated on a regular basis and they perform how I expect them to. And thats all Ive ever wanted out of all of my electronics. Im with #Apple and I’m happy about it. And to be honest, I just don’t see me changing platforms anytime soon.

Thank you if you’ve made to this part of the story. I hope you have a blessed day and an awesome week. And let me know in the comments below if you’re an iSheep or if you know someone who is but they wont admit it. I’ll see you guys next time. Bye!

Random facts that happened during this time

1. This post has been on my mind for two years.

2. I didn’t write about the first time we had to exchange the phones and we went to a satellite store where the sales associate didn’t know what she was doing and tried to charge me $600 to replace our Note7 phones and I lost my temper and almost chewed her face off. Luckily my 5yr son was with us and I didn’t want him to see me like that.

3. After getting my iPhone and thinking about the Note7, using a stylus on a phone is just an extra step you have to take when it comes to doing anything on the phone.

4. I still haven’t changed my #Apple watch wrist band. I just love how the white looks and grabs attention from people. I’ll change it one day.

5. I wanted to get the new #iPad pro and give my wife my current #ipad pro because she still has the #iPad air 2 but #iPads last so long that most people don’t upgrade for years at a time. She says she’s still happy with it.

6. When I got my #iPad i gave my son my old #kindle and he used it for a few months until my little sister upgraded her #iPad pro to the 12 inch model and gave him her old 9 inch #iPad pro. So I have two kindles that are completely useless in my electronic junk drawer (lol)

7. The day I got my #iPhone I gave my son my Galaxy s7 and he’s played with it for less than 24 hours (lol)

8. I will be getting me some #Airpods (lol).

3 friends

A dog a sheep and a cat

One grey, one white, one white and black

One likes to wear a bell
One likes to wear a bow
And the other looks rather dashing in a top hat

A cat a dog and a sheep
One purrs one barks and one bleats

The dog is thick and husky, the sheep’s  cozy and warm and the little cat is so cute that he couldn’t cause any harm.

A sheep a cat and a dog
A best friend, the whitest wool, and furry paws

The cat plays until he gets tired, the sheep’s the best place to lay your head and the dog protects them both, yes you heard what I said

A dog a cat and a sheep
Yes kids…a dog a cat and a sheep

A strange friendship I know
To see them play is such a treat
Sometimes I often wonder
How did these three ever meet?

              THE END.

Every since I started writing I’ve always wanted to write a children’s nursery rhyme. And the moment my son was born that feeling got even stronger. So here is my crack at it. I’ve read it to my son a time or two and he seemed to enjoy it so that made me post it here. And I’ve loved doodling since I can remember so the art wasn’t to hard for me. Please let me know what you guys think. Your comments are welcomed and appreciated.

 
Thank you if you’ve read this entire #blog. I hope you all have a blessed day.

Roses on a Battlefield 

The sky was a deep dark grey

Lightning cracked and thunder rolled for ever

The ground was muddy and impossible to walk on

Thanks to the stinging rain.

The air was heavy and thick

The only smells were gunpowder and blood

Concrete bunkers smelled like complete death

And each squad mate smelt worse and worse

I’d pass a shiny artillery shell some days and see a huge change in myself

Being out here so long my body  has gotten weaker and I’ve forgotten the taste of real food

Oh how I longed for a hot plate of my wife’s delicious meatloaf and potatoes

Even that slop at the mess hall would have satisfied my angry stomach right about now

My hands were constantly wrapped around a gun or knife

The feel of cold metal was one thing that actually comforted me

Pulling the trigger became second nature

Realizing that I’d pulled a trigger hundreds of times and was still living made me say a small silent prayer for the soldier that I killed.

Huge artillery guns sounded off every couple of minutes

Even after hearing them for months they still rattled my bones when they fired

Exploding sounds would hit the ground seconds after

And each time it did I wondered if it killed a man or just scared him half to death like it did to me… It was pure hell.

But one morning when the sun was high in the sky

My platoon an I were headed to an advanced position

While jogging I looked down and stopped in my tracks

My mind was in amazement at what my eyes were seeing

My combat boots were completely surrounded by dark red beautiful roses

My eyes filled with tears and my heart dropped to my stomach

It was then that I realized that no matter how much death, destruction, hatred, and just plain old pure ugliness that man can create.

The world is still… and will always… be a beautiful place!
  

Short story #1

As Marian opened her eyes, she noticed a symbol on the ground. Then slowly as she began to regain contiousness she realized that the ground was actually the ceiling, and that she was hanging upside down. She tried her best to remember how or why she was hanging upside down in an unfamiliar place, but it was hard thinking about anything with all the blood in her body racing towards her head! She really began freaking out when she noticed that she couldn’t feel the lower half of her body. So with all her might she tried to reach the rope tied around her legs and pull herself up , but she just couldn’t. And all of a sudden a door next to her flung open and a bright white light shined in her face. She couldn’t make out who the person standing in the door was because of the light but she had a feeling who it was. The person started walking over towards her and an a very soft and calming tone said, “Ahhh so this is little miss combs?” The lady walked up to Marian and paused for a brief moment. She stared down at her while Marian was hanging like fruit on a tree. “You know…with that face lift and diffrent hair style….i can barely recognize you!”, the lady said with an enormous smirk on her face. Marian’s face was blooming and her eyes were as wide as they could get. She couldn’t believe what or who she was looking at. Then the lady said “But….i do recognize those eyes….you have your father’s eyes”. After staring deeply into Marian’s eyes the strange woman starts giggling like a little school girl. “What the hell are you laughing at you evil which?” Marian asked. “Oh you poor poor dear, your face is as red as a cherry! Let me help you get yoyr blood circulating!” Then the lady called out “Bull….come here for a second plz”. And in walks this super buff lady with arms the size of tree trunks and legs the size of light poles. She was so strong, it looked like her muscles had muscles. “Bull…miss combs here looks like she’s not comfortable, how can u fix that?” Then Bull grabbed both of Marian’s wrist with one hand, and both of her ankles with another hand and lifted her off of the hook she was hanging on and dropped her to the floor like a rag doll! When Marian hit the ground she let out a loud grunt like she was in terrible pain. “Hey hey easy bull!…is that how you’re suppose to treat our special guest?” And in a manly snarky tone bull replied “she ain’t special to me”, “just get her a chair would you?” said the strange lady. Bull said “Whatever..she can sit on the floor”, while storming out of the room in a steroid enduced fit. “I’m sorry sweetie but she’s been going stir crazy being cooped up in these walls for the last year or so. And since we thought you had died or committed suicide she’s had nothing to do but lift weights!” Tbc…
This was just little short story that I was thinking a out and found a little time to write while on my break at work. I hope to finish it at some point.

I Dont Wanna

I don’t want him to start school

I don’t think my heart is ready

I don’t want him to turn 5

Just give me one more year I’m begging

I dont want him to meet other kids

I dont want him to meet a new teacher

I dont think y’all are listening to me

Just point me towards the nearest preacher

I dont want him to make new friends

I dont want him to eat lunch from home

I dont want him to discover a whole new world

Soon he’ll be asking me to buy him a phone

I dont want him to meet a cute girl

I dont want him to start going on dates

I dont want him to go to his senior prom

Then he might wanna travel across states

I dont want him to fall in love

I dont want him to leave his room

I dont want to be his best man

Seriously….Can I put him back in the womb?

I dont want him to start school

I don’t think my heart is ready

I dont want him to turn 5

Just give me one more year I’m begging!

                                             -Daniel Taylor

6 month photo shoot

My son starts school in a few months and I’m clearly not ready for it. I dont think I’ll ever be ready for it. So many thoughts run through my mind all day and night. A lot of them are happy thoughts, but to be totally honest, some of them are scary, for me not him. And sometimes the thought of him going through troubled times in his life keeps me up at night…seriously! It’s just something that I really really really dont want him to experience.

 
Thank you if you’ve read this weeks blog. Please feel free to leave me some comments below and let me know if any of you have ever felt like me or are going through this situation with me. And please let me know what I can do to settle my nerves lol. See you guys next week!

Memories

Memories

 What’s going on everybody? D2 here and this time I wanna talk to you guys about memories. I was at home just watching my son run around doing his thing and just started thinking about all the memories that he’s put in my head and I was just amazed. Then I started thinking about my wife and all the things we’ve experienced together and I was just blown away by how much those two people have placed permanent marks in my mind and heart. And that’s what got me onto this subject. Memories are some of life’s most precious gifts that a person can hold on to. In fact memories are really the only real valuable things that people can take with them throughout their entire life. It’s also amazing to me that some people in their 80’s and 90’s can remember things from when they were children and here I am in my early 30’s I can’t remember what I had for breakfast the other day. And that’s another reason I think its super sad when people go through their lives creating lots of wonderful memories and then they experience permanent amnesia. I know its not the worst thing that could happen but to me its still a pretty sad moment in someone’s life.
 And with that being said I would like to share with you guys some memories that are near and dear to my heart. Now I already have tons of them and I look forward to making tons more but these are some of the ones that always come to mind when I’m day dreaming about my family.

In the Beginning.

      In the beginning there was just me and my sweetie. Now I grew up in a small town in east Alabama and she grew up in south Florida, so I’ll let you guys imagine the differences we had growing up as children. But skipping ahead to when we became a couple, life was pretty grand back then. We were young and free. No kids, no mortgage, and no responsibilities outside of having regular jobs.. so If we wanted to do something we just up and did it. And look at that smile. Before this pic I rarely recall smiling in any of my pictures. Not a natural smile at least, it was always like a forced smile. This isn’t a pic from when we officially became a couple this is a pic from the first time we spent the weekend in Atlanta, Ga celebrating her sisters birthday. The hotel was nice, the food was over priced and the drinks could have been better but we didn’t care as long as we had each other, everything was good. The entire evening was truly magical because we were surrounded by friends and family. This picture was the next morning as we were getting ready to leave and it was during this picture that I realized how much she loved to take pictures. I obviously wasn’t but this one turned out to be one of my favorite pics of us. And just look at the smile on her. Priceless!
Enter player Number 3

    Ah yes as you can tell from the pic above this is one of the crowning moments in my life. In fact I think this should be a crowning moment in anyone’s life. The day my son came into this world. And obviously this isn’t on his birthday, A birthday of which him and I share, but this is six month later during our first family photo session. At that time we were living in a two bedroom shoebox apartment, I was still working as a temporary employee at a job, bills seemed to be coming from everywhere and my wife was always telling me that she wanted family photos. It really didn’t occur to me that we should have family photos but looking back on it I’m glad we do have some. I didn’t think that we had enough money for a professional photographer but she thought otherwise and so… we had some taken. The photographer was a really fun, down to earth lady and she and my wife had became pretty good friends before and after our photos so she’s our first thought whenever we want professional photos. Now there are some good photos of us posing as a family, and all but I think that the best ones are where we weren’t posing. Out of all the pictures we took, the best one we have is the one hanging over our dining room table. It’s a candid shot she took while we were just playing with my son and gave the biggest smile. She also had a DVD of the entire photo shoot made that she gave us for free. And we had a booklet of my son made and it tears me up every time I look at it. To see him back then and to see him now is truly amazing to me. And again that smile on him is priceless!
The Whole Gang.

    Ok as I’m scrolling through some of our family selfies to find one to dissect for this blog I came across this one. Now this was just a random moment when we were chilling at my parents house for “Sunday dinner” and my wife pulled out her camera and started snapping. Then my son comes and jumps in on the action like he normally does whenever he sees us taking a pic. Now I dont remember what was happening at the moment, and I surely don’t remember what we had for dinner but when I look at this picture, it just dawns on me that that moment was perfect for a selfie of us. And I don’t know what you see when you look at this picture, but when I look at this picture I see nothing but happiness in our eyes and smiles. The bottom right pic is the original, then she said “kiss me” and that became the bottom left. Then my son comes in and my wife said “everybody big smile” which became the top pic. And then she said “ok now do a silly face”, and that became the middle left pic. And in my opinion it mad a pretty good family selfie.  And yet again, those smiles are priceless!

Like I was saying before memories are some of life’s most pressings gifts. Some people keep them for an entire lifetime and unfortunately some people don’t. One of the worst things is when people hold on to bad memories. Because bad memories tend to hold you back from reaching certain steps in your life. And every since my son came into this world he’s put so many good memories in my head, it feels like he’s pushed most of the bad memories out. These are just some of the treasured moments in my life. And thanks to these pictures and this blog I’ll always be able to come back to them later on when I need a quick pick me up. And I’m pretty sure I’ll smile every time I do.

Thank you if you’ve read to this point of my blog. I hope I didn’t bore you to death, or ramble on about my life too much. Please feel free to leave me some comments in the sections below! I’d love to know what type of memories you guys cherish! As always, I will see you guys next week!

Sex After Marriage

Sex After Marriage

    What’s going on everybody? D2 here and I know i’ve been missing for a while on my blogs and there is no excuse for that other than I only write when I’m not looking for something to write about. And with that being said, this idea came to mind the other day when I arrived at work one morning. See what I mean, my inspiration hits me at the weirdest times. But I digress. Soooo… lets get into it shall we.

    Has anybody besides me ever wondered why a lot of people always say “sex stops after the honeymoon”? Now I’ve heard mostly men say this and they were deep into their marriages. I’m talking 10 to 15 years deep! Another crazy thing is that these dudes be having three and four kids, yet still manage to spit these words out of their mouth. Now I’ve never technically heard a woman say it to me, mabey because i’m a dude, but i think that there are women out there who feel the same way also. Now most commonly men stop doinga lot of things when they finally “get” the woman and honestly some women stop doing certain things they started doing also. So realistically both parties are at fault.
    Now I don’t have any type of degree when it comes to relationships, I’m in my early 30’s, and I’m coming up on my fifth year of marriage, but please believe me when I say that ” sex does NOT stop after the honeymoon”. And in my humble opinion, I think sex should get better and more expressive after the honeymoon rather than before. In fact I bet there are some couples out there well into their 20th or 30th year of marriage still getting their “groove on”, and having fun doing it.
    Below are some reasons that I think that sex should not stop, why people (mostly men) say that it does, and a few ways to keep the flame of desire burning after years of marriage.

1) NEVER STOP DATING YOUR SPOUSE.


    Now here’s one that everybody and their mamma has heard before. And I must say that this one is very critical and true in a relationship. And I don’t mean necessarily always go out on these expensive and lavish dates. I mean Always try to see your spouse the way you did when you guys first started dating. I think at some point every married couple would like to go back and visit the beginning of their relationship. Because somehow a lot of the little things were easier back then. Like communication was even easier back then. I don’t know of one couple from my generation that didn’t stay up talking on the phone all night, knowing that they had important things to do the next day. And the way we use to hold hands everywhere we went. I wont go deep into the science of what holding hands does to a human being but there is some really powerful feelings beind doing it. And I don’t need to explain the strong emotions behind kissing and hugging. Do I? I didn’t think so. And after all that communicating, holding hands, kissing and hugging has taken place. Then comes all the intimate touching. And this is my personal favorite act of dating my spouse. So to sum up this little nugget of info, “Always dating your spouse” doesn’t mean expensive dates and pricey gifts. A picnic in the park, wine and cheese under the night stars, or even just an unexpected cooked meal and great conversation can end up being a “great date”, Trust me!

 2) SEX USUALLY STOPS WHEN ONE PARTY FEELS THAT THEY’RE DOING MORE THAN THEIR SHARE.

    One big problem that a lot of couples forget to think about, mainly because their spouse doesn’t or hasn’t talked about or complained about, is their performance in bed. After marriage, sex is suppose to be elevated to another level, and I think that the reason people don’t bring up their couples performance is because they don’t wanna embarace them, or they’re just avoiding an awkward conversation. And to be honest if you can’t talk to your spouse about their performance, then who can you talk to about it. And if you or your spouse feel that the other could be doing more in bed that’s a big problem. Because that can lead to one of y’all not liking it and then the sex stops. And that’s never a good thing. And long periods without sex causes sexual frustration and can lead to problems outside the bedroom. The worst case senario being having a affair with someone and eventually getting a divorce. And the best (least problematic) case would be having petty arguments all the time or something of that nature. Sexual frustration is one of the worst feelings to have in a relationship. Especially when you’ve got your spouse right there beside you. And I don’t wanna bring up all the health benefits of having sex , believe me there are a lot of them, but I will state two important facts that you probably don’t hear about often. Are you ready? For women it’s that sex can improve bladder control. And for men it may make prostate cancer less likely. So you see, you two are helping each other live a healthier life and having fun doing it. So do you and your spouse a favor and make love making a consistent act in your relationship. Your spouse will thank you for it.

3) EXPLORE NEW FANTASIES AND BOUNDARIES WITH YOUR PARTNER.


    Now this ones is important because after five to seven years of having sex with the same person can get a bit..ordinary, it might help if you switched things up a bit. And no i’m not talking about using paddles, whips and chains, put those away for really desperate times. I’m simply talking about role playing. I cant tell you how many stories I’ve read where the woman dressed up in something she would never wear outside of the bedroom, like a female super hero, and it drove the man completely nuts about her. Or the man started acting different during sex and the woman would be smiling from ear to ear all day. I mean peoples sex life went from non existent to at least once everyday simply because one of them dressed differently for bed!  Role playing can bring out a side of your partner that you never saw. And most people keep this thoughts bottled up inside because they don’t want their partner thinking that they’re crazy or weird. But so what, they married you and you married them what y’all do or discuss in your bedroom is nobody else’s business. It still amazes me that not every couple knows each others secret intimate fantasy. When I read that I literally sat back in my seat and said a little prayer for them. I mean… why wouldn’t you tell your spouse your secret fantasy. So what if they find it strange they should at least be willing to give it a try, even if only to please you. And don’t you be so quick to judge them about their fantasy either. You better be thinking about how you can make it happen or they will seek out someone who will. When I told my wife one of my fantasies she was into it with no hesitation. She didn’t laugh or make me feel weird at all. And that just opened the flood gates for me. And when she told me hers I didn’t think she was weird I immediately started thinking how I could make it happen as soon as possible. And that’s the way I feel that all couples should think. Because if one of you don’t then again, that could lead to some dangerous problems in your marriage. So don’t be afraid to explore new fantasies and boundaries with your partner. They will be glad you did!

 

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